This is one I've thought about for a while, probably since I was a kid. Why am I putting it out here? Maybe to see if I'm the only one, or not as the case may be.
Does anyone else have friendships, possibly very close ones, where you're the only one doing all the work? You're always the initiator. You're always the one to make social plans, are the one to call or text first in a conversation, send the first e-mail. You might not realise you are but look back and you start to see a pattern emerge.
There are friends I've had for years and they have never ever been the one to suggest going out for a pint, or dinner, or even meeting up for coffee. Ever. And I've never been to their houses socially when they've been in mine.
A few times over the years I've experimented, left it with friends and not contacted them to see just how long it would take them to get in contact. On more than one occasion the answer has been never. And I've just fallen back into the pattern again. It's that or have no friends. After a while and if the pattern is one that seems to play itself out over your whole life from school to now, then you start to ask questions of yourself and your friendship with the people involved.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not portraying myself as some model of the perfect friend, far from it, none of us are. I'm also not saying they're bad people or that the friendships aren't worthwhile, far from it as they are my friends and I don't choose lightly. Maybe it's just that, when it comes to friendships, some people are pushers and some are the pushed and one type automatically gravitates towards the other.
I'd just like to be the pushed every now and then.