Some may say flirting is the art of seduction, but my focus is always on attention, regardless of motive or response. I've always loved flirting as an art form. I will confess I'm very good at paying attention when I want to. It means I also tend to get people thinking I'm attracted to the focus of my attention when I don't - there are thousands of ways to like someone. In my day I could flirt with 6 men at once. Now that I'm a bit of an aul wan and paranoid about being an aul wan, I don't get as much opportunity.
It's great when you come across great flirters who are in it for the flirting too. I have one such friend and for the last few years it's been very entertaining, we both push the bounds of flirtation to the limits. The last time we met he gave me a stand-up lap dance. Lap dances make me laugh. But you can't really flirt with someone who you know can't handle it, which many can't. So the game always starts with sussing the other's flirting capacity. Anyway, with all this rambling I just want to set a context for flirting as an entertaining and skillful social art; and rid it of the negative image and it's bind to the game of love; because flirting is so much more than a tool of attraction.
(see from 2.10 minutes in)
(JM - sorry, I know you hate BB but it's a great example of flirtation)