It's fathers day, so I'm gonna write about mothers! Anyone who reads my own blog knows that even though I've been a mother for nine years I'm still struggling with the ins and outs of motherhood.
Recently I've found myself wondering about the divisions between women, just as every child is different, every mother is different. We seem to be constantly at each others throats. The women who are bottle feeding are the enemies of the women who breastfeed, the working mothers are the enemies of the stay at home mothers and the environmentally unfriendly women who use disposable nappies are the arch enemies of the Eco savvy mother with her organic cotton nappies.
Why are we at each others throats? When I look at my friends who are mothers we are all different, we all fall into different camps on lots of different issues, but we all have one thing in common, we all want the best for our little ones. We are all handed a bundle of joy, with no instructions, we have to make decisions everyday, about how we are gonna take care of our children, feed them, discipline them all in a manner that is agreeable to our own beliefs and the way we live our lives as women.
None of my friends would judge people as regards the way they live, where they live, their marital status, personal grooming or financial status. Yet we often judge other mothers once we become mothers ourselves. I'll put my hand up and say I do it! It's a horrible thing, I look at my very eco-friendly friend using her nappies that spill the contents regularly and while I admire her for being so environmentally friendly, I'm thinking, "God just make your life easier, use disposables!" Or my acquaintance who works very hard, travels away a lot leaving her two year old to family members and her daddy, on top of her 7am to 7pm creche, I judge her, I really do.
I'm trying not to, I'm trying to be more tolerant. Why are women always enemies? Why can't we all be on the same side? The serious working woman at one end of the page and the eco-friendly super mother (earth) at the other end, but all on the same page? We aren't enemies, we could be an amazingly powerful group if we all joined forces.