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I used to totally hate giving blow jobs.... I saw it as degrading, I saw it as giving up my personal freedom and making myself a subordinate person to pleasure my partner. I am ok now though, porn helped a lot, it showed me that it could be aesthetically pleasing as well as physically so.
Now i see it as empowering, my hubby is in my power, i decide if it happens or it doesn't only me! So my hubby is the lucky one. I am so happy that something that gives me such pleasure also pleases him, but also that something that I find so empowering turns on all his buttons!
Recently someone close to me said it was demeaning for me to preform oral sex on my husband.... I really don't see how, once I want to do it surely it's a good thing!
I think people are doing it wrong if they're not enjoying doing it themselves. I LOVE THEM. I'll even insist on doing it! (Why would it be demeaning, I don't get that?) I don't even need it to be "returned" I just love doing them! OOH I'm getting carried away now......
ReplyDeleteI can't think of anywhere else I would have a discussion like this shy of being totally plastered at 3 in the morning but I, as a man, love giving too. Don't need it to be reciprocated. I'd perform 24/7 if required to do so just because I enjoy it!
ReplyDeleteReally? To both of you? I think I've never been in the right headspace to do that. Well, I was, and then was derailed by some moron's stupid comment, and haven't been able to perform for *years*. Need to get that sorted.
ReplyDeletehypnotherapy, Polka?
ReplyDeleteAsh it's funny isn't it, I think women say they don't like it so they can make the feel guilty! buy me a diamond if you want a blowjob type thing!
SL, you are a funny kettle of fish (he he), that's unusual for a man!
Hmm, this is all very odd. What's not to like about oral sex, for God's sake - except when men instist on thrusting frantically in and out of your mouth and refuse to let you actually do any of the work - that just pisses me off, and it's dribbly and uncomfortable. I feel it really takes the artistry out of the whole thing.
ReplyDeleteAnd I think they should give classes on cunnilingus to boys in school from the age of 16 or so.
Kettle? Fish? Moi? Yup.
ReplyDeleteAnd surely JTM guys realise that's the one time the can just lie back and enjoy themselves! Some people are just control freaks.
As for the classes I'm sure that's something teenage boys would very much welcome, particularly if you could use them to replace say Irish or higher level maths?
tee hee. A much more useful skill, indeed. And a much happier experience of the dreaded 'oral', fnar fnar...
ReplyDeleteI can't believe I missed that double entendre. I am hanging my head in shame. Shame.
ReplyDeleteI was surprised, myself, actually...
ReplyDeleteYa know we've got to the stage where you can identify the writer of the post by just looking at the picture posted.
ReplyDeleteI've got it spot on 4 times out of 4 attempts this week.
Yeah - Midge thinks it's her libido people find surprising - but it may just be her compulsion to talk and write about it repeatedly that makes people call her a nympho.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I'm not complaining, I think it's all very entertaining.
And it's pleasantly adolescent, especially now that we're past shouting about it from the back of the bus...
Jo, I don't have a complusion to talk about sex, I just like it, I think it's amazing that we still have these taboos!
ReplyDeleteI don't think we do have these taboos, I'm only teasing. I've probably talked about sex more than anything else in the course of my life...
ReplyDeleteJesus, how many nymphomaniacs do we have here? A show of hands will do fine. Not that you see me complaining you understand ;)
ReplyDeleteActually, I'm a fraud, I'm all talk and no walk at this stage of my life - though I do love the internet and its rich and varied possibilities!
ReplyDeleteAnd ok, here goes, I've just had a very dirty story published in a bondage anthology in the US - got my author copies yesterday! It's so incredibly exciting, but I can't tell anyone I know because it's too rude to show them. I've told my husband but I can't quite face him reading it!
But it's too much of a buzz, and I can't keep a secret. Don't tell anyone!
Cool, we have two porn writers on the blog now, no I'm not one! Well done Jo! I think there still are taboos, I think cos I'm married and a mother that I'm not allowed to talk about sex. It's ok if you are single, you can talk about sex as much as you want, but being in a relationship, when you talk about the ins and outs (oooh) people think it denegrates the sex in a relationship, which I think it's bullshit!
ReplyDeleteNah I said in another post MW a lot of women would not be so open about talking about sex, which I find really upsetting, so I cant reiterate how much I enjoy reading your posts its a breath of fresh air to me.
ReplyDeleteAnd like TG said its great being able to tell who the writer is from the images, and as someone into photography what a great shot you managed to use for the post, fantastic.
Thanks Shan, sometimes my favorite bit is picking an image, I've an eye for a picture....but I can't take a photo for the life of me....seriously, I'm so awful people can tell which photo's I've taken!
ReplyDeleteI don't know how this is adolescent tho...aren't we all adults, and don't we all do things like this? I'd say we were being quite good in the way we share things on here, and the way the discussions go.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, hypnotherapy is in the cards. It's a quite useful thing, I must say. But that's another post.
Write that post polka!
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