I love this photo....it makes me smile, also makes me feel all squishy inside, see why I'm getting my tubes tied...? Even with all of my knowledge of how much babies and children have changed my life, I still get that feeling when I see a baby! I know! I know! I know it's totally biological, I know I am programmed to feel this way, to want to reproduce......I am aware of the biological implications and reasons but I still feel that leap in my tummy when I think about having another baby!
I had an awful time on my pregnancies, I suffered with PET, quite a serious complication of pregnancy, baby or mummy can die, but even with those terrible pregnancies I would do it again in a heart beat, the desire to reproduce, and the feeling of growing a unique and tiny little person in my tummy totally blows me away, more so as I get older and my son (nearly 10) becomes a real independent person, I see them develop into little people, and they are all so different it blows me away!
So today I had a shock, an incredibly good friend of mine, someone I love very much told me she has met her soul mate, I couldn't believe it, he's not available, she has been married for 8 years, but has no children and she said, "I'll give up everything, my lifestyle, money, house everything, to be with him, and I asked her one question, " can you see yourself having his children?" I would love to have his children"! Once she said that I knew, I knew what she felt was real, she has never felt like that before!
Ok, Mad rant, I know, but I am struck by what love is....is it a biological trick? are the people we really fall for the ones we are biologically the most compatible with or is there something else? I am fascinated to know what people who do or don't have children think!