Sunday, August 31, 2008
Yesterday myself and the three bambinos went to Borders in Blanchardstown for a bit of a shop and a cup of coffee. Pretty normal Saturday afternoon activities I suppose? It was except for one little thing, we had arranged to meet the kids dad, my ex husband and his lovely girlfriend there. Why am I talking about this here? What another post about Midge's marriage breakdown? NO!
I want to share this here, you guys have been with me (and my ex) every step of the way and now here we are in a place I never thought I'd see.
I want to let people share in the fact that it is possible for happiness after heartbreak, maybe help someone else out there who is going through the pain and uncertainty that we experienced last year?
Now I know we are very lucky, we both get on well with each others partners, we are both comfortable with seeing our kids interact with them, I think this is because both of the new people in our lives are lovely kind and gentle and we approve of the others choices. But it is great to be able to all get together, sit have a coffee, talk about what's going on in our lives, let the kids see that as a parental unit we still function (united) but that we are happy to see each other in new relationships, it's OK to like, or love the other parents new partner, in fact it's just another member of this (rapidly growing) family, another person who loves the kids and cares about them, Gosh how lucky are my kids?
Yes my family is unconventional, yes at times it is difficult, confusing and definitely tiring, but it is amazing, it is filled with love and what I hope is a lack of the egos that cause so many difficulties when people separate. But I suppose only time will tell? I do live in a land of Sunshine and lollipops sometimes, and in my head this is they way I need things to be I suppose, I just don't have the energy for negativity or bitching, I am using all my energy just living at the moment (never mind gestating!) I admit I have images of years down the road, Christmas and birthdays, extended families, blended families, separated families, whatever, that we can all be together to celebrate the important milestones in the children's lives.....am I dreaming?
Posted by Midget Wrangler at Sunday, August 31, 2008